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I contacted Next Chapter after the police provided me with their number. I had reported stalking behaviour from my ex-husband. We had been separated for a few months, but he just couldn’t seem to accept that it was over.

During the relationship, he had been quite controlling with money, but there hadn't been anything I would say is abuse back then. It was only once the relationship ended that his behaviour really escalated. He kept contacting me, even after I told him clearly to stop. He started posting suicide notes both online and through my door. He sent endless messages blaming me, begging for another chance. Flowers. Gifts. It didn’t stop.

Eventually I reported it to the police, because nothing I said made a difference. That’s when I contacted Next Chapter and was allocated to an IDVA / ISAC. I was completely overwhelmed and had no idea how the police process worked or what I could do to protect myself and my children.

The situation kept getting worse. The police told me they would be arresting my ex, but he was still everywhere. Messaging, calling, emailing, posting on social media, even contacting people I knew. He hung around near my home and kept threatening suicide. I was exhausted — constantly on edge.

That’s when I was given a Clare’s Law disclosure. It confirmed what I was starting to suspect: He had a history. He’d been convicted of domestic abuse against an ex-partner. I kept reporting everything, but it felt like nothing was being done. I even made a formal complaint to the police. I started to question whether what I was experiencing was stalking. There had been no physical violence and no threats made. My IDVA taught me about stalking, the different forms this can take and it helped me to see that his behaviour was not okay. I did not feel safe, I felt scared and I did not want him to contact me. I understood I had a right to feel safe and for the police to protect me.

With support from my IDVA, we put safety measures in place — things like a Ring doorbell and a tailored safety plan. I also applied for a non-molestation order, since there were no bail conditions or protective orders in place at the time.

My IDVA really pushed the police to take more action. The Officer in Charge told us that arresting my ex was a priority. My IDVA also helped me apply for council housing, and I was heard at a multi-agency meeting where my IDVA advocated for a Stalking Protection Order to be considered. Although my ex continued with his behaviour, I felt stronger in knowing what actions I could take and that there were people there to help me.

A few weeks later, my ex was finally arrested. He was released on bail but continued contacting me. I kept reporting it and at the same time, I was granted an emergency non-molestation order. He didn’t listen to the order, and kept contacting me. He wasn’t done. He started pretending to be other people, people close to me. Impersonating them over email so he could contact me.

My IDVA continued to advocate for me and push for the police to take further action. My case was heard at something called a stalking intervention panel and it was here that police listened and understood mine and my IDVA’s concerns about my ex’s behaviour. They took my fear seriously. My case was transferred to the specialist domestic abuse team and a senior officer had oversight on the progression of the case. That change alone made me feel like the police were finally taking this seriously.

We found a safe address we could move to and throughout this process, my IDVA helped me to feel safe in the new address. A priority of mine was to make sure my ex did not know where I had moved to, and we talked through all the measures we could take to reduce that risk. I was beginning to feel safe again.

Even though I had moved, and the police were taking action, the stalking did not stop. My ex continued to contact me and each time I would update my IDVA. We would safety plan around this and she provided me with emotional support. My IDVA contacted the police and kept them updated and I continued to report breaches of bail. The police would get back to me quickly and I felt reassured that he was being looked into. The police applied for a stalking protection order and my IDVA helped shape the conditions by talking through what would help keep me safe.

Although I felt safer physically, the emotional impact of the abuse was significant. I had to continue through family court, through divorce and child arrangements. I couldn’t afford a solicitor and my IDVA sought guidance and advice herself through other professionals so she could support me through the process as much as possible. I’m so grateful — that guidance made a big difference and allowed me to focus my time and energy on my safety and wellbeing. She also helped me apply for legal aid and find firms that were taking clients. Eventually, I found someone to represent me.

The stalking continued. The behaviour always got worse around key dates — birthdays, our anniversary, court dates. But by then, we’d planned for that, and I felt more prepared.

At criminal court, my ex pleaded guilty and I was granted a restraining order. Because of this, the police did not pursue a stalking protection order. I felt frustrated and my IDVA raised this with the police. I didn’t want to fight it, I just wanted to be able to move forward. My IDVA understood and heard my wishes.

Right now, I’m in the middle of divorce proceedings, and still going through the family court process. It’s not easy. But through all of this, my IDVA helped me understand what is and isn’t acceptable. She helped me set boundaries, feel safer, and feel more in control. I know what to do now if something happens again.

Emotionally, it’s still hard. The long period of stalking and abuse took a real toll on my mental health. But I’ve come a long way — and I’m incredibly grateful for the support I’ve had, especially from my IDVA, who kept pushing even when it felt like nobody else was listening.

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The theme of National Stalking Awareness Week 2025 concerns how healthcare professionals can support victims. You can read our NSAW 2025 article on our blog now.

Every year, more than 1.5 million people in the UK experience stalking, yet many victims suffer in silence. The effects go beyond emotional distress - stalking can have a serious impact on physical and mental health. That’s why this year’s National Stalking Awareness Week (22–25 April) is focusing on the healthcare sector’s role in spotting stalking.

Recent data from Essex Police reveals 16,688 incidents of stalking and harassment recorded in the 12-month period ending October 2024. National statistics further highlight the gravity of the situation, with one in seven individuals aged 16 and over in England and Wales having experienced stalking at least once.

For many victims, their GP, nurse, or therapist may be the first professional they turn to for help. But without clear signs of physical harm, stalking can be easily overlooked. By understanding the signs and responding appropriately, healthcare professionals can be a vital first line of support.

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The Health Impact of Stalking

Stalking isn’t just about persistent messages or unwanted attention - it’s a pattern of behaviour that causes fear and distress. The toll on health can be significant, leading to:

• Anxiety, depression, and PTSD

• Sleep disturbances and chronic stress-related illnesses

• Headaches, stomach issues, and high blood pressure

• Self-harm and suicidal thoughts

Many victims don’t immediately recognise stalking as the cause of their symptoms. They may report stress, difficulty sleeping, or panic attacks without realising that ongoing fear and hypervigilance are taking a toll on their well-being.

How Healthcare Professionals Can Help

Recognise the Signs

Stalking victims may present with:

• Recurrent anxiety, panic attacks, or depression

• Unexplained stress-related physical symptoms

• Trouble sleeping or sudden weight loss/gain

• Fearful behaviour or reluctance to discuss certain topics

If a patient mentions ongoing unwanted attention, being followed, or excessive messages, it could indicate stalking.

Encourage patients to document incidents (dates, times, interactions) and report concerns to the police if they feel unsafe.

Ask the Right Questions

Many victims don’t use the word “stalking.” Instead, they might describe feeling watched or unsafe in their daily lives. Asking direct but gentle questions can help:

• “Has someone been repeatedly contacting or following you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable?”

• “Do you feel afraid of someone, even if they haven’t physically harmed you?”

• “Is there a pattern of behaviour that’s making you feel unsafe?”

Believe and Validate

If a patient discloses stalking, listen without judgement. Dismissing or downplaying their fears can discourage them from seeking further help. Instead, acknowledge their feelings:

• “I hear you, and this isn’t your fault.”

• “You don’t have to deal with this alone—there is support available.”

What are we doing in Essex?

Home Office Funding has enabled us and other partners within SETDAB to actively work to protect victims of stalking and domestic abuse. This funding supports various projects across Essex designed to target perpetrators of stalking and domestic abuse, helping them change their behaviour before it escalates.

The funding has been used to pilot new approaches, such as early intervention for first-time offenders and mentoring programs like the Goodman and Sisters in Strength projects, which educate young people on healthy relationships and provide support to those affected by abusive behaviour. These programs aim to break the cycle of abuse and reduce harm.

Continued grant funding means Independent Stalking Advocacy Caseworkers (ISACs) can continue to support victims across Essex. ISAC’s play a crucial role in supporting victims of stalking, safely guiding them through the criminal justice system and using their specialist knowledge to help victims understand their rights.

Jane Gardner, Deputy Police, Fire and Crime Commissioner and SETDAB Chair said "It’s vital to support victims of stalking across Essex. Independent Stalking Advocacy Caseworkers (ISACs) are essential in providing the specialised support that victims need. These dedicated professionals are at the heart of our broader strategy to protect victims and prevent stalking and domestic abuse in our community."

Get Support from Next Chapter

Healthcare settings aren’t always equipped to handle stalking cases directly, but you can connect patients to the right services, including ours.

Direct them to our website (thenextchapter.org.uk) where they can drop us a line either by webchat, email or phone.

They can also access The Suzy Lamplugh Trust, who facilitate National Stalking Awareness Week and operate the National Stalking Helpline, which is available for victims across the country: 0808 802 0300

They also have an ‘Am I Being Stalked?’ online assessment, which can help a victim gain validation for their experience: https://www.suzylamplugh.org/am-i-being-stalked-tool  

Look After Your Own Well-Being

Supporting victims can be emotionally challenging. If you’re a healthcare worker dealing with complex cases, make sure to:

• Seek guidance from safeguarding leads in your workplace

• Access mental health and peer support resources

• Take time for self-care and professional development

Every Conversation Counts

Stalking can be isolating, but healthcare professionals can make a difference by simply listening and signposting to support. By recognising the signs and responding with care, we can ensure that victims are heard, believed, and helped.

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All of us at Next Chapter are delighted to share that we have been recommissioned by Essex County Council and PFCC for five more years of activity, enabling us to continue providing our life-changing services to those across Essex who are or have experienced domestic abuse.

We feel this outcome is a testament to the dedication, expertise, and passion of our entire team, as well as the trust placed in us by the people and communities we serve.

This recommissioning follows a rigorous and competitive bid process, where we showcased the many methods of support, community partnerships, and examples of practitioner excellence that define our work. It wasn’t easy to distill everything we do into a limited bid, but we felt that our final submission truly reflected the heart and impact of Next Chapter – and we are incredibly glad to see this acknowledged in this outcome.

Beverley Jones, Chief Executive, said:

"I am absolutely delighted that Next Chapter has been recommissioned to provide all domestic abuse support services across Mid & North Essex for the next 5 to 7 years. This decision is a testament to the dedication, expertise, and unwavering commitment of our teams, who work tirelessly to support survivors of domestic abuse and help them rebuild their lives.

"We are particularly pleased that for the first time this recommissioning includes vital support for Children and Young People, ensuring they are able to receive the specialist help they need. Our bid was shaped by the voices of those we support, backed by strong evidence of our impact over the past six years, and demonstrated our commitment to innovation and excellence in service delivery.

"I want to extend my sincere thanks to Essex County Council and the Police, Fire & Crime Commissioner’s Office for recognising the quality of our work and our steadfast commitment to placing survivors at the heart of everything we do. This renewed partnership allows us to continue developing and enhancing our services, ensuring that every survivor has access to the support they need to secure a future free from abuse.

"We look forward to building on our successes and continuing to provide the highest standards of care and support to those who need it most."

This renewed contract allows us to sustain the critical services we provide and includes the addition of 29 new safe accommodation rooms sourced with new partners. It ensures we can further our mission of supporting survivors, creating safe spaces, and advocating for systemic change in Essex.

Sarah Taylor, Chair of the Board, said:

‍“Here at Next Chapter we want life without domestic abuse. Safety for victims and being part of enabling them to rebuild their lives are our passions. Everyone here will continue to strive so that people in our communities can live their life free from domestic abuse. The trustees are extremely proud of the excellence and expertise demonstrated by every person in the Next Chapter team, and we are pleased to be entrusted with this important mission for another five years.”

To all our supporters and everyone who contributed to the bid process – including survivors, practitioners, staff, and more – we extend our deepest thanks. This is a collective achievement.

As we look ahead to the next chapter of our journey, we remain committed to making a lasting difference in the lives of those across Essex experiencing domestic abuse.

While this round of funding ensures we can continue delivering our essential services and sustaining the urgent support we provide to survivors of domestic abuse, expanding our current offerings means that we still rely on donations from supporters like you to reach even more victims across Essex.

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From November 25th to December 10th, Next Chapter is joining the global movement for the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence. This annual campaign serves as a powerful reminder of our collective responsibility to stand against all forms of gender-based violence, and this year’s theme, UNITE - Invest to Prevent Violence Against Women and Girls, emphasises the critical need for targeted resources and community support to stop violence before it starts.

Why Investment in Prevention Matters

Investing in prevention is not only about addressing the root causes of violence but also about building a future where safety, dignity, and respect are the standard for everyone.  

With adequate resources, we can empower our communities to disrupt cycles of abuse and create safer spaces for women, girls, and all individuals who seek help. This year’s theme is a call to action for individuals, businesses, and organisations to make prevention a priority and unite in the fight to end violence.

How You Can Support 16 Days of Activism

Throughout the 16 Days, we’ll be sharing powerful stories, statistics, and educational content on our social media platforms and website to raise awareness about gender-based violence and the need for investment in its prevention. Here are a few ways you can get involved:

• Engage with our content: Follow us on social media, like and share our posts, and join the conversation. Your support helps us reach more people who may benefit from our services.

• Donate or Fundraise: Your financial support makes a significant impact. Whether through a direct donation or by starting a fundraiser, your contributions go directly to services that provide safe spaces and ongoing support for those affected by abuse. To begin a fundraiser, please visit https://forms.office.com/e/jnAVkTrUiR  

• Advocate in your community: Become an ambassador for change by educating yourself and others. Whether through workplace discussions or community events, sharing information and resources, like the ones available on our website, can help break down the stigma and silence around domestic abuse – and even open up a discussion that could be life-saving.

Spotlight on Inclusivity

Violence affects all members of society, and inclusive support is essential for a safer, more compassionate world. We encourage anyone in need to reach out; our team is here to offer understanding and help without judgement.

You can get support from Next Chapter from our partners at Essex Compass by calling 0330 333 7 444. You can also call us directly on 01206 500585.

We have a webchat function available during normal working hours in the week. Just click the icon in the bottom right of your browser to begin a conversation with one of our practitioners.

If you, or someone you care about, is experiencing domestic abuse – even if you just have a hunch – you can learn how to recognise the signs, and find helpful guides for everything from keeping safe online to information about what happens to pets when a victim is in refuge, by clicking ‘Information’ in the navigation menu at the top of the page.

Join Us and UNITE Against Violence

The 16 Days of Activism is a rallying cry for each of us to invest in a violence-free future. Join us in taking a stand for a world where everyone feels safe, respected, and valued. Together, we can build a future free of violence for the next generation and for all.

For more information about 16 Days of Activism, click the link below to visit the World Health Organisation website. This will open in a new tab.

16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence 2024

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Continuing from our news yesterday that Sarah Taylor has been appointed Chair of Trustees, today we're pleased to share that Anisa Khan will be taking on the position of Vice-Chair. She said:

Becoming a trustee for The Next Chapter (East of England) has been both a personal commitment and a unique opportunity to make a real difference in the lives of women and children facing domestic abuse. It means being part of a mission-driven team that is dedicated to empowering survivors and advocating for safer futures.

For me, this role isn’t just about governance; it’s about amplifying the voices of those who often go unheard and ensuring that every decision we make prioritises their safety and dignity. As a trustee, I get to bring my skills and insights to help shape the charity’s direction, but it’s the stories and resilience of the women we support that inspire my efforts the most.

Working alongside passionate staff and volunteers, I feel privileged to contribute to an organisation that not only offers refuge and support but also strives for systemic change, working toward a world where everyone can live free from fear and harm.

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Next Chapter is proud to partner with Be More Dandelion with ‘Survivor Steps’, a unique, six-week dance programme created exclusively for survivors of domestic abuse. This transformative initiative, led by choreographer, dancer, and domestic abuse survivor, Fi Bool, combines movement, somatic healing, and mental well-being to support survivors on their recovery journey.

Sally Harrington, Director of Adult Services and Deputy CEO of Next Chapter said:

We are delighted to have the opportunity to work alongside Be More Dandelion so that we can provide our clients with another way to work on their recovery which is completely different to our other programmes.  We are looking forward to following the progress of this project and strengthening our relationship with Fi.

The Survivor Steps programme provides a safe, uplifting environment for female participants to rediscover self-confidence, strength, and resilience. Guided by Fi Bool, participants will experience movement sessions that empower them to reconnect with their bodies in a positive, compassionate way, helping them reclaim confidence that may have been lost through abuse.

Studies in the United States indicate that integrating dance into recovery programmes can significantly improve survivor outcomes, with notable effects on emotional resilience, mental health, and overall well-being. Survivor Steps is the first programme of its kind in the UK, and Next Chapter is honoured to support its launch, which fills a vital gap in survivor services through creative and expressive therapy.

Fi Bool, Founder, Be More Dandelion, said: We are thrilled to partner with Next Chapter in Colchester to bring the Survivor Steps programme to life through the Dandelion Project. This collaboration is a vital part of our mission to empower survivors of domestic abuse using movement and dance as tools for healing, rebuilding confidence, and reclaiming a sense of self. Together, we are committed to creating safe spaces where survivors can grow, flourish, and rise stronger from their experiences.

For more information about Survivor Steps or to inquire about joining this programme, visit: https://www.thedandelionproject.co.uk/#survivorSteps  

About Next Chapter

Next Chapter is a domestic abuse charity based in Essex, UK, dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic abuse. Our mission is to provide comprehensive services, including safe refuge and transformative programmes, helping individuals and families move forward from trauma and rebuild their lives.

https://thenextchapter.org.uk  

About Survivor Steps

Founded by Fi Bool, Survivor Steps is a first-of-its-kind programme that brings dance, somatic movement, and mental well-being together to support survivors of domestic abuse. This programme harnesses the power of dance to aid healing, foster personal growth, and help participants reclaim their sense of self.

https://www.thedandelionproject.co.uk/  

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